How To Realise Your Self-Worth04:05
At one point in life we've all been in a position where we have allowed a particular incident or a person walk all over us like a piece of chewing gum stuck to the bottom of an old shoe. This could have been allowing an exam failure make you feel like you will never be good enough or allowing that boyfriend or friend to keep taking you for granted. We have all been there!
As time goes on these incidents of life can make us forget how valuable we really are. Not feeling good enough is one of the worst and most dangerous mental states to be in. I know I have said this before on an Instagram post (@fashionsplayground), but I want to remind you all that having a good career, a big house or an amazing body does not define you.
Your self worth comes from within and not from any outside validation, it's important that you think highly of yourself through the good and bad times. I know I struggle a lot sometimes, so I've decided to share a few tips on how to realise your self worth.
1. Make A List Of Things You Like About Yourself
For me this list is very important. I'm very quick to point out my flaws or weaknesses so having a list that I am able to read every morning rejuvenates me for the day ahead. You could love the fact that you are ambitious, you are very social or that you have a particular unique talent (i.e. being able to tap your head and rub your belly at the same time)
You should add at least 1 thing to your list each week, no matter how insignificant it may seem. As time goes on you will start to realise your qualities and how amazing you really are. All the other things that your not so good at will be forgotten about and will no longer weigh you down.
The honest truth is if you don't realise all of your amazing qualities don't expect someone else to. Knowing your self worth will avoid allowing people to walk in to your life and treat you like a rubbish bin. It almost happened to me recently, I took a huge step back and said "HOLD UP!! I'm not a chewing gum girl you know! Have you seen my list of qualities?!". Long story short I tell those type of people to take several seats. Situations and people will always try to take advantage of you, you need to know your worth!
2. Treat Yourself!
You need to love yourself more than any other human being can ever love you!
Treating myself is a fortnightly ritual. I will first sew myself a nice outfit, the outfit that I'm wearing in this picture is the Fashion's Playground "Bow Dress". This dress is made from a premium french lace fabric, the highest quality of lace on this earth. I then finished it off with a satin bow to cinch in my waist and create the most elegant party at my back. It's the intricate details that really complete this dress. My 3am excitement on snapchat (@fashionsplayg) was intense lol. The colour of this dress is what sealed the deal for me, it's in between a nude and soft pink, so against any skin tone the lace is such a beautiful sight. Lastly I created this dress to be inconspicuously see through in all the appropriate places. The perfect balance of sexy and elegant is what I love about this "Bow dress".
After I put on my outfit, accessories and make up I will then go out! This weekend I went out with my good friend Alex, we both have a love for desserts so we went to "Caffe Concerto" in Knightsbridge to enjoy an endless selection of delicious cakes and late afternoon tea.
I either go out with friends or I take myself out to dinner's, spa's, shopping, hotel's you name it! No one should treat you better than you treat yourself, you deserve the best so why not start giving it to yourself now. Don't wait around for any man or woman to do it for you, you could be waiting around your whole life.
3. Don't Compare Yourself
"Comparison is the thief of joy". Once you live a life of comparison just know that you are setting yourself up for a life of eternal depression. Nothing you do will ever be good enough because your constantly trying to "keep up with the Kardahsians". When you are so busy focusing on what other people are doing how will you have time to stop, appreciate yourself and develop upon the amazing person that you already are. Mind your business a focus on yourself!
In this internet age of social media it's easy to get caught up into thinking Mr Jones's life is so much better than yours, but 90% of the time you have no idea what is really going on. People only show you what they want to show you, everyone has their struggles. When I heard that Kehlani tried to kill herself my heart broke. She is such a young, beautiful and talented woman, someone who I look up to and I keep in my prayers.
We have all been created differently, my goal and journey in life is going to be totally different to another persons path. Even if I try to do it like Mr Jones I could end up failing, while Mr Jones runs off into the sunset happy and free as a bird. Discover who you are and be happy with it because it's not going to change. You have been created specifically for a purpose in life and have been blessed with unique talents to help you achieve that purpose, so stop trying to live someone else's life.
Never forget that you are more than enough! I hope these 3 tips will help you realise how valuable you really are. Don't allow a bad situation or person make you feel small, start to recognise your potential and every good quality about yourself.
If you have any other tips on how to realise your self worth please share them!
Love you guys and i'll see you all soon!
Wearing the Fashion's Playground "Bow Dress"
Mac Makeup "Up The Amp" lipstick